This week has been the most trying week for me and Little. She has been sassy, disrespectful, disobedient, and destructive. Starting with an epic tantrum on Monday as we were leaving our friends house.
I don’t know what to do with her. We’ve made it 11 months since the Twins arrived, 6 months living apart from Hubs, and just now is she starting to have behavioral issues. What’s worse is that she knows she’s making bad choices, and she’s doing it anyway. I’m at a loss. Nothing will motivate or alter her behaviors. I’ve taken away privileges, scolded, time out, after time out, after time out and even a swat after she nearly hurt B1, trying to slam his hand in the closet door. She’s upset and she just doesn’t care anymore acting out all over the place.
I noticed a while ago that her behavior was taking a turn for the worst so I began implementing nightly snuggles and movie time with just the two of us, hoping that it might curb her minimal outbursts from turning into full blown poor behavior, but it only made it worse. I get that she misses Hubs. She’s 4 she doesn’t really know how to articulate that aside from her behaviors. I can’t change that, nor can I continue to allow her to be a brat.
I know she misses Hubs, I know we’ve been through a lot of changes recently, but once again this is flairing up in the Fall. She isn’t herself from late October until December. She hasn’t been for three years now, but no one will look into it beyond: “oh she’s just scared of Halloween, she’s just overwhelmed with xyz, oh this oh that oh this…” my kid is sick. Something in her brain clicks and she goes wild for that time period every year; before she returns to her normal well behaved self like nothing ever happened.
It has something to do with the changing of the seasons. Maybe it’s Seasonal Affective Disorder, and the only way she can cope with her depression is acting out? I don’t know, but it kills me to watch my child suffering, and not know what/how to help her. I can be strict, I can be lenient, I can be patient, I can be militant nothing helps her feel better. Uuuuuuuuuuuuuugh… mom problems. 😞