I’ve been thinking really hard about how I wanted to present my opinion on the recent Supreme Court decision here in the US for marriage equality. Honestly it’s taken me so long because I haven’t exactly formed my opinion itself. So, forgive me if this post is a little garbled, I repeat things, or seem to contradict myself a bit. There are so many different factors that go into it my Borderline brain is having some issues processing what emotions I’m actually feeling and how I’m feeling really dictates how I word things in my writing. It doesn’t play a big part in my actual opinion now that I’m in remission, but it is a bit easier to censor your writing when you know you’re angry, sad, disappointed, happy, excited, etc. lol.
And yes, if you’re wondering, yes. This whole issue was one of the things that really sent me for a loop this past weekend. Like I said, nothing about the events themselves were truly significant it just happened at a time when I was pretty emotionally overwhelmed in the first place. It’s only going to get worse as my pregnancy progresses. Brace yourselves! lol. ANYWAY…. back to the topic at hand: marriage equality.
On the one hand, I am happy for my friends and family who have been fighting for the right to marriage for so long. Statistically speaking gay couples are much more committed than traditional couples and will/did remain in a partnership for life with or without a marriage license. The license itself is mostly legal anyway for tax breaks and other government benefits. So, I don’t really have an issue with that. Personally after my friends and family have made their choice in partners I have been supportive and respectful toward them.
BUT, I didn’t politically support the right to marriage equality. This is where things get tricky. I believe that homosexuality is a choice. There is no genetic disposition either way, you aren’t born that way. There are many early life development factors that play in allowing people to FEEL that they have been attracted to the same sex their entire lives, but there is no gene that says who or who you won’t be attracted to. I’m sorry, it’s just science. If they ever DO find a gene that dictates sexuality, I will reevaluate, but as of right now it is either undiscovered or doesn’t exist, which means that sexuality is in fact a choice.
Does that mean that those who choose a homosexual lifestyle are less than those who choose a traditional lifestyle? Oh no. MOST DEFINITELY NOT. People are people and deserve the same amount of respect regardless of the choices they make. Which is why I’m not particularly upset by the ruling as far as the literal marriage license goes. Where it gets me is when things start getting skewed. If it was simply allowing homosexual couples the right to obtain a marriage license, by all means. Go for it. Be recognized by the government as a married couple. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple.
I couldn’t believe less than 24hrs after the Supreme Court made their ruling the President was standing up preaching about how religions should change their values to accept the new law. Whoa. See, now here’s the problem. I was raised and subscribe to Evangelical Christian beliefs. I believe the Bible is literal, and homosexuality is something that not only is mentioned in the Old Testament, but also in the New Testament which means per my beliefs what was said can be applied to modern life. The Old Testament laws are primarily a history leading up to the New Testament and life after Christ’s death and resurrection, but the New Testament laws or teachings are applicable until the Second Coming. That’s what I believe in a nutshell, obviously it’s much more in-depth than that, but for the purpose of this post that little gist will work.
ANWAY… as I stated before homosexuality is viewed even in Biblical times as a choice, and a sin. However, in God’s eyes sin is sin. Telling a white lie is just as grievous as murder. There is no scale of sin, no one worse than the other. Which is why I can respect and love my gay friends and family just as much as anyone else. He who is without sin should cast the first stone, right? The problem becomes when instead of being able to convey my beliefs in love, calmly and rationally (which is what we as followers of Christ are supposed to do with LOVE in our hearts NOT hatred) I immediately get attacked, called bigoted, small minded, and discriminatory. Picket lines are drawn, protests are raised, and laws are drafted challenging my rights to believe and speak as I believe under the guise of “equality.”
That, I can not support in the political arena, and unfortunately that is what the issue of not only marriage equality but the political umbrella movement of “equality” has become over all in recent years. I understand that there are many so called “Christians” who are making a horrible name for the religion by practicing and preaching hatred, fire, brimstone and damnation. The same can be said for Islam and the radical extremists who have used terror and violence to destroy the reputation of a relatively peaceful religion. I understand why the argument as become LGBT vs Religion even though it never started out that way. I simply can’t support a political movement that is trying to take away not only my rights as a follower of Christ, but other religious rights as well simply because we don’t agree. That is where the so called “equality” movement is headed. There is no way around it.
A wonderful example is the recent RFRA debate in the state of Indiana. An angry, bitter couple decided to sue a privately owned small bakery for exercising their religious rights on the basis of “discrimination”. All it takes is one couple who wants to get married in a religious institution which refuses to start a chain reaction all the way to the Supreme Court whittling away religious freedoms as they go. In reality, it isn’t the LGBT community at all which challenges our religious freedoms in this country, it’s the shady lawmakers and corrupt politicians who have hijacked a group of people for their own selfish political gains. Not one single person I know or have personally met it the LGBT community would ever DREAM of challenging a church who refused to marry them. Honestly, my LGBT friends and family are some of the most nonjudgemental accepting people I’ve ever met.
So I guess over all while I don’t truly have a personal issue with those who chose a homosexual lifestyle receiving marriage licenses, politically I can’t support it because of all the baggage that comes along with it. Which is unfortunate and unfair to all parties involved. A fellow blogging buddy shared this picture over the weekend and I really feel like it says everything I feel, much more concisely than my rambling above. lol. So here it is.