Nothing irritates me so much as those who belittle and dismiss others in genuine need of help. Yes, I’m aware that there ARE those people out there who feed off of the attention of others. Those who purposely cause drama in their lives to feel loved and special and are incapable of coping without it. Attention seeking behavior is VASTLY different from those genuinely seeking help, or simply expressing their feelings and emotions.
Those who are merely seeking attention will be combative when valid solutions to their complaints are presented, coming up with a million reasons why they “must” continue to suffer and each time a complaint is raised it will be much more dramatic. It’s painfully obvious who is truly just attention seeking and who is genuinely seeking advice. The problem is how any expression of an emotion has become a perceived cry for attention.
The human body reacts to pain whether physical or emotional in the exact same way. If you stub your toe you’re going to curse or cry. No one would accuse you of intentionally smashing your toe and expressing your pain, so why do people think it’s okay to throw around words like sensitive or overly emotional when those who endure an emotional pain express it? Why is it “crazy” to sit down and express yourself in writing or other art forms? Why is it “obsessive” to sooth your pain by addressing it multiple times? Why is it just “looking for attention” when you choose to open up and share your experiences?
I’m not speaking about myself. I mean, lets be honest here, I do have a clinically defined mental disorder. I am “crazy” in the pure sense of the word. The difference between the literal definition and insult is this: I’m high functioning and stable. When my therapist tells me I have a problem, I’ll address it. Everyone else’s opinion on the current level of my sanity is irrelevant. Simply that, their opinion.
No, I’m talking about other people out here in the blogosphere being badgered and bullied for expressing themselves and their deepest darkest feelings. Chastised for attempting to recover, for reaching out for help. Sure, it’s just things I encounter online. I don’t know any of these souls personally, for all I know everything they write could be complete fiction, but I’m not going to take that chance. I’m not going to ignore someone crying out for help just because they MIGHT be attention seeking.
Maybe it’s just because I have an overwhelming empathy for the human race in general. I am pursuing the education to become a therapist after all. I want to help people, so perhaps I see things others who are cynical or self serving miss. I don’t know, it just really bothers me watching these kids get trolled upon, or seeing the negative hurtful comments they have to endure. What’s that saying? Something about when you assume you make an ass out of you and me? It’s basically the same principal. What you see isn’t always what you get, and people seem to have forgotten that.