Mommy Wars

I am baffled. Like completely confused by this entire concept of “Mommy Wars”.  I also don’t understand the concept of Mommy Guilt. Even as a parent, I just don’t get it. I’m not perfect by any means. I’ve made mistakes along the way, even in Nora’s short eight month life, but I am not dwelling on them and fretting over them, nor am I worried about how Nora will “turn out” as a result of a mistake I have made.

I like anyone else want the very best for my child. Sincerely, I do. On my quest to give her the very best I make decisions about everything from what she wears to what she eats. Who she associates with, who I associate with, the way I present myself, how I teach her about the world, what she watches on tv, everything. I have complete and utter confidence that the decisions I make are the best for Nora. I’m not saying they are the best for ALL children, but for my kids? Yep that’s what we’re doing.

I don’t understand why people take offense by the things that I chose for my own family. I don’t go around parading telling everyone that my way is the absolute best way and all others pale in comparison. I don’t try to convince parents with opposing view points that they should do things my way, I don’t even bring it up in discussion when my parenting differs from another’s. It doesn’t matter how some one else raises their kid. Unless they are physically/mentally causing harm to their child it is none of my business. I am completely okay with this.

Why do so many other people feel the need to defend themselves and their decisions? I will defend my stance if I am attacked, but I know the difference between an actual attack on my parenting and a difference of opinion. I mean I don’t even know really what to say. The concept is completely foreign to me. It is outside my realm of understanding. 

Maybe it’s because I’ve never really been subjected to a peer group. Being so much older than my siblings, and homeschooled I’ve pretty much always done my own thing. Even when it wasn’t the popular thing to do. Even the few years I went to school it was never an issue. Well, it was never an issue for me. The rest of the class and teaching staff thought I was psychologically troubled, but y’know. Maybe I am psychologically troubled and that’s why I can’t figure this thing out? lol. 

The reason I bring all this up is because there is a heated debate going on surrounding Similac’s new advertising campaign. In an extremely paraphrased nutshell it’s something like this: Simlac doesn’t judge, so why should you? Let’s put an end to Mommy Wars. Then it list the reasons that it’s product is just as good as breastmilk for your child. Now here’s the thing, formula is NOT scientifically up to par with breastmilk, just yet. I’m not saying that if you chose to give your child formula you are a bad parent or neglecting their nutritional needs, because you’re not. It is a completely viable option to provide children with the necessary nutrition to grow up and become healthy adults. It’s not like people who chose formula are feeding their kids poison, but it’s just not breast milk. That’s a fact.

Having said that, do you want to know the honest reason I chose to breastfeed vs giving Nora formula? IT’S FREE. Yeah, that’s right. I’m cheap, so I chose breastfeeding. Breastfeeding sucks. It takes so much time, it’s uncomfortable, all of her feeding up until recently fell completely on me, getting out to do things just for me is next to impossible. It is a serious commitment. If I had to go back to work Nora would most certainly be eating formula, and I don’t have a problem with that other than the strain it would put on our finances. 

So y’know, I’m not some high and mighty Breast is Best crusader, it just works for us. If formula works for you? Great! Feed your kid formula. It doesn’t affect me one way or the other so…? Why is that such a hard concept to grasp for people? Why is it such a heated debate? Why is it causing friction between parents?  Why are people offended? Please, some one explain this to me. I seriously don’t get it.

Anyway… I need to get some dishes done while Nora is napping. She’s doing fine btw. We went to the doctor today for a weight check today since she hadn’t really gained any weight between her four and six month appointments and the doctor gave her a good once over to double check for any issues after her tumble. She gained weight, and other than being a bit sore has no lasting major injuries from her fall. *happy dance* lol. Until later Bloggies. 🙂